Einsog lesendur vita er \u00e9g \u00ed grunninn \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00f6kulasta\/wokeasta \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00e9g hafi litla \u00feolinm\u00e6\u00f0i fyrir h\u00famorsleysi, gefi listinni n\u00e1nast takmarkalausan fr\u00edpassa og finnist systkini m\u00edn \u00e1 v\u00f6kusl\u00f3\u00f0um stundum mj\u00f6g sn\u00f6gg a\u00f0 teygja sig eftir vopnunum \u2013 ekki a\u00f0 andst\u00e6\u00f0ingar \u00feeirra \u00ed afturhaldss\u00f6mu rottuholum internetsins s\u00e9u sk\u00e1rri, \u00fev\u00ed s\u00ed\u00f0ur, \u00feeir eru verri, en eiga \u00feetta sameiginlegt me\u00f0 f\u00f3lkinu \u00ed skotgr\u00f6funum handan v\u00edgl\u00ednunnar a\u00f0 vilja helst t\u00e6ma magas\u00edni\u00f0 \u00e1\u00f0ur en nokkrar eiginlega sta\u00f0reyndir eru lj\u00f3sar, \u00ed takti vi\u00f0 einhverjar fyrirframgefnar hugmyndir um l\u00f6gun heimsins. Betra a\u00f0 skj\u00f3ta fyrst og spyrja svo. \u00deolinm\u00e6\u00f0in \u00e1 undir h\u00f6gg a\u00f0 s\u00e6kja. Hva\u00f0 um \u00fea\u00f0. Til marks um v\u00f6kula l\u00edfss\u00fdn m\u00edna finnst m\u00e9r til d\u00e6mis algert lykilatri\u00f0i a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur vir\u00f0i kynvitund f\u00f3lks og \u00e1varpi \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00e1kv\u00e6mlega einsog \u00fea\u00f0 vill l\u00e1ta \u00e1varpa sig. \u00c9g get satt best a\u00f0 segja varla \u00edmynda\u00f0 m\u00e9r meiri \u00f3\u00fearfa f\u00e1vitaskap en a\u00f0 miskynja f\u00f3lk viljandi. Upp \u00e1 s\u00ed\u00f0kasti\u00f0 hefur hins vegar komi\u00f0 upp \u00ed m\u00e9r \u00e6gilegur m\u00f3t\u00fer\u00f3i var\u00f0andi \u00fea\u00f0 hvernig f\u00f3lk kemur \u201eforn\u00f6fnum s\u00ednum\u201c til skila. \u00c9g get nefnilega ekki me\u00f0 nokkru m\u00f3ti sam\u00feykkt a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk gegni almennt \u201eforn\u00f6fnum\u201c frekar en \u201efornafni\u201c \u2013\u00a0altso, \u00feegar f\u00f3lk tilkynnir \u00f6\u00f0rum a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 noti \u201eh\u00fan-forn\u00f6fn\u201c e\u00f0a a\u00f0 \u201eforn\u00f6fnin\u201c \u00feeirra s\u00e9u \u201ehann\/honum\u201c og \u00fear fram eftir g\u00f6tunum. Hann og honum eru nefnilega ekki tv\u00f6 forn\u00f6fn heldur eitt \u00ed tveimur f\u00f6llum (af fj\u00f3rum). \u00c9g heiti til d\u00e6mis ekki n\u00f6fnunum \u201eEir\u00edkur, Eir\u00edk, Eir\u00edki, Eir\u00edks\u201c \u2013 heldur nafninu Eir\u00edkur, sem s\u00ed\u00f0an beygist eftir k\u00fanstarinnar reglum. \u00deetta er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 smit \u00far amer\u00edsku \u2013\u00a0\u00fear sem er enn meiri lenska a\u00f0 spyrja \u201ewhat are your pronouns\u201c og allir skrifa \u201eshe\/her\u201c ne\u00f0st \u00ed t\u00f6lvup\u00f3stinn sinn (\u00ed vi\u00f0eigandi kyni) \u2013 v\u00e6ntanlega af \u00fev\u00ed amer\u00edkanar skilja ekki fallbeygingar. \u00dea\u00f0 er a\u00f0 minnsta kosti eina \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0an sem m\u00e9r dettur \u00ed hug. \u00c9g bar \u00feetta undir v\u00f6kula vini m\u00edna \u00ed Sv\u00ed\u00fej\u00f3\u00f0 og \u00feeir s\u00f6g\u00f0u a\u00f0 \u00fear t\u00ed\u00f0ka\u00f0ist alls ekki a\u00f0 tala um \u00feetta svona \u2013\u00a0einsog hon og henne v\u00e6ru sitthvort fornafni\u00f0 \u2013\u00a0samt beygja \u00feeir ekki heldur nafnor\u00f0. H\u00e9r \u00e6tti ma\u00f0ur kannski a\u00f0 halda \u00fev\u00ed opnu a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk geti gegnt fleiri en einu fornafni \u2013\u00a0t.d. b\u00e6\u00f0i h\u00fan og h\u00e1n. Altso, ef hvort heldur sem er gengur \u2013\u00a0\u00fea\u00f0 truflar mig ekki neitt. \u00dea\u00f0 er bara \u00feetta me\u00f0 a\u00f0 hann og honum s\u00e9 \u201eforn\u00f6fn\u201c frekar en \u201efornafn\u201c. *** \u00c9g hef miki\u00f0 veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 hugsa um interneti\u00f0 upp \u00e1 s\u00ed\u00f0kasti\u00f0. Ekki \u00fea\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi komist a\u00f0 neinni ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0u! Interneti\u00f0 er bara einsog \u00fea\u00f0 er. \u00deetta blogg er 20 \u00e1ra gamalt \u00ed \u00e1r \u2013\u00a0hefur veri\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00f3l\u00edkum st\u00f6\u00f0um og megni\u00f0 af \u00fev\u00ed glatast \u00ed einhverjum flutningum en \u00fea\u00f0 eru 20 \u00e1r n\u00fa \u00ed \u00e1g\u00fast fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed \u00e9g stofna\u00f0i s\u00ed\u00f0u \u00e1 blog.central.is og kalla\u00f0i hana Fjallabakslei\u00f0ina. \u00de\u00e1 var slagor\u00f0i\u00f0 \u201eMe\u00f0 bakfjall \u00ed framrassinum\u201c. Kannski hef \u00e9g veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 hugsa um bloggi\u00f0 vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 kom til m\u00edn ma\u00f0ur \u00ed br\u00fa\u00f0kaupi \u00e1 d\u00f6gunum til \u00feess a\u00f0 l\u00fdsa \u00e1n\u00e6gju me\u00f0 Fjallabakslei\u00f0ina og \u00feetta var ma\u00f0ur sem \u00e9g haf\u00f0i ekki hugmynd um a\u00f0 hef\u00f0i nokkurn t\u00edma lesi\u00f0 bloggi\u00f0 mitt \u2013 au\u00f0vita\u00f0 veit ma\u00f0ur \u00fea\u00f0 aldrei, \u00e9g veit ekkert hver les \u00feessi or\u00f0, en \u00feetta er ma\u00f0ur sem \u00e9g hef \u00feekkt l\u00edtillega \u00f6ll \u00feessi 20 \u00e1r. Einhvern t\u00edma var bloggi\u00f0 saka\u00f0 um a\u00f0 vera botnlaus h\u00edt sj\u00e1lfhverfu og narsissisma. Ekki \u00feetta blogg s\u00e9rstaklega, heldur bloggi\u00f0 sem sl\u00edkt. S\u00fa t\u00ed\u00f0 er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 li\u00f0in \u2013\u00a0en \u00feessar hugsanir m\u00ednar um interneti\u00f0 hafa n\u00fa samt oft botna\u00f0 \u00ed hugsunum um narsissisma, sem \u00e1 n\u00fa fyrst og fremst heima \u00e1 f\u00e9lagsmi\u00f0lunum, einsog hefur sj\u00e1lfsagt ekki fari\u00f0 framhj\u00e1 neinum. \u00c9g er ekki endilega a\u00f0 hugsa um f\u00f3lki\u00f0 \u00ed Fr\u00e6gir \u00e1 instagram \u00e1 DV og \u00fev\u00ed \u00f6llu saman heldur annars konar narssisma, \u00feann sem blasir ekki endilega vi\u00f0 e\u00f0a \u00e1 s\u00e9r \u00f6nnur birtingarform. David Foster Wallace tekur t.d. stutt rant um narssiss\u00edska mannvini (philanthropists) \u00ed Infinite Jest\u00a0\u2013 sem er \u00ed sj\u00e1lfu s\u00e9r l\u00edka vel \u00feekkt tegund, mannvinurinn sem vir\u00f0ist n\u00e6rast \u00e1 eigin g\u00e6sku og jafnvel eigin p\u00edslarv\u00e6tti, mannvinurinn sem hefur alla m\u00e1lsta\u00f0i fyrst og fremst sem bakgrunnsmynd a\u00f0 eigin s\u00f6gu, mannvinurinn sem dreymir ekki endilega um sigur s\u00edns m\u00e1lsta\u00f0s heldur a\u00f0 f\u00e1 a\u00f0 nj\u00f3ta hetjulj\u00f3mans sem fylgir f\u00f3lki \u00e1 bor\u00f0 vi\u00f0 Martin Luther King e\u00f0a Gretu Thunberg. \u00cd dag er sumt af \u00feessu f\u00f3lki reynar h\u00e1lfvegis runni\u00f0 saman vi\u00f0 Fr\u00e6gir \u00e1 instagram estet\u00edkina \u2013\u00a0einhvern veginn alltaf h\u00e1lfnaki\u00f0 \u00e1 einhverri snekkju a\u00f0 gera deadlifts\/spila \u00e1 hlj\u00f3\u00f0f\u00e6ri fyrir Palest\u00ednu\/umhverfi\u00f0\/hinseginf\u00f3lk og\/e\u00f0a konur. Svo eru l\u00edka svona l\u00edtill\u00e6tis-narssisistar, sem eru kannski ekki jafn \u00e1berandi \u2013\u00a0\u00fe\u00f3 held \u00e9g a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk flissi stundum svol\u00edti\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00feeim \u00ed laumi. \u00dea\u00f0 er a\u00f0 segja narsissistarnir sem eru alltaf a\u00f0 augl\u00fdsa \u00e1 samf\u00e9lagsmi\u00f0lum hva\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u n\u00fa lausir vi\u00f0 \u00fdmsa n\u00fat\u00edmakvilla, svo sem einmitt h\u00e9g\u00f3ma e\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1ttt\u00f6ku \u00ed l\u00edfsg\u00e6\u00f0akapphlaupinu, hva\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u bara miki\u00f0 \u00ed n\u00fainu og jar\u00f0tengdir anna\u00f0 en firrtir n\u00fat\u00edmamennirnir \u00ed kringum \u00fe\u00e1 \u2013\u00a0og halda sennilega a\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u a\u00f0 augl\u00fdsa d\u00fdpt s\u00fdna en eru bara a\u00f0 svamla \u00ed grynningunum og heimta l\u00e6k. Einsog hinir. Einsog allir. *** Annars er h\u00e9g\u00f3mi eitthva\u00f0 sem r\u00eds miki\u00f0 og fellur \u00ed m\u00ednu l\u00edfi, eftir \u00e1rst\u00ed\u00f0um og a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0um, reikna \u00e9g me\u00f0. M\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0ur best \u00feegar hann er \u00e1 undanhaldi\u00a0en \u00e9g get ekki alveg \u00e1n hans veri\u00f0. \u00c1 \u00f6\u00f0rum endanum hangir h\u00e9g\u00f3mi saman vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfsvir\u00f0ingu og einhverja tilfinningu fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 geta p\u00fasla\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r saman \u2013\u00a0en hinumegin er hann bara sturlu\u00f0 d\u00f3pam\u00ednf\u00edkn me\u00f0 \u00f6llum klass\u00edskum einkennum f\u00edknisj\u00fakd\u00f3ma (\u00fer\u00e1hyggju fyrir uppfyllingu f\u00edknarinnar, sj\u00e1lfsey\u00f0ingarheg\u00f0un og afneitun \u00e1 \u00f6llu saman). Listheimurinn er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 h\u00e9g\u00f3madrifinn \u2013\u00a0mann langar a\u00f0 eiga hlutdeild \u00ed d\u00fdr\u00f0inni, til \u00feess er ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 \u00feessu \u2013\u00a0en heimur rith\u00f6funda er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 l\u00edka mj\u00f6g einr\u00e6nn. Ma\u00f0ur performerar mest bara \u00ed loku\u00f0u herbergi \u2013 a\u00f0 miklu leyti sennilega vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 manni finnst \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6gilegast. En ma\u00f0ur hefur kannski einmitt \u00feess vegna meiri t\u00edma til \u00feess a\u00f0 g\u00e6gjast fram \u00ed sal til a\u00f0 fylgjast me\u00f0 vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0um og ver\u00f0a svol\u00edti\u00f0 noja\u00f0ur \u2013\u00a0\u00feegar ma\u00f0ur stendur \u00e1 svi\u00f0i getur ma\u00f0ur takmarka\u00f0 einbeitt s\u00e9r a\u00f0 f\u00f3lkinu sem er a\u00f0 horfa, af \u00fev\u00ed ma\u00f0ur er einbeita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed sem ma\u00f0ur \u00e1 a\u00f0 vera a\u00f0 gera. Rith\u00f6fundurinn getur eytt eins miklum t\u00edma og hann vill \u00ed a\u00f0 r\u00fdna \u00ed einhver komment \u00e1 B\u00f3kagulli e\u00f0a Goodreads e\u00f0a \u00ed faglegri gagnr\u00fdni. Og gert sig vitlausan. En hann getur l\u00edka sleppt \u00fev\u00ed. \u00dea\u00f0 er bara spurning um dagsform. Altso, ma\u00f0ur getur sleppt \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 lesa gagnr\u00fdni og komment \u2013\u00a0ma\u00f0ur sleppir \u00fev\u00ed ekki a\u00f0 gera sig vitlausan, \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki h\u00e6gt, a.m.k. ekki a\u00f0 minni reynslu, ma\u00f0ur finnur bara n\u00fdjar lei\u00f0ir til \u00feess. N\u00fdjar og betri lei\u00f0ir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Einsog lesendur vita er \u00e9g \u00ed grunninn \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00f6kulasta\/wokeasta \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00e9g hafi litla \u00feolinm\u00e6\u00f0i fyrir h\u00famorsleysi, gefi listinni n\u00e1nast takmarkalausan fr\u00edpassa og finnist systkini m\u00edn \u00e1 v\u00f6kusl\u00f3\u00f0um stundum mj\u00f6g sn\u00f6gg a\u00f0 teygja sig eftir vopnunum \u2013 ekki a\u00f0 andst\u00e6\u00f0ingar \u00feeirra \u00ed afturhaldss\u00f6mu rottuholum internetsins s\u00e9u sk\u00e1rri, \u00fev\u00ed s\u00ed\u00f0ur, \u00feeir eru verri, en eiga \u00feetta … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa: N\u00fdjar og betri lei\u00f0ir til sj\u00e1lfsd\u00fdrkunar<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4814","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4814","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4814"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4814\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4814"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4814"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/norddahl.org\/fjallabaksleidin\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4814"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}